The Perfect Grand Prize
Darlings,
So today I’m writing about a worthy cause that is near and dear to my heart and to the heart of so many other independent, beautiful, accomplished, and intelligent Divas. Honey, I’m talking about The Grand Prize.
Naivety of Love
You know I recall growing up, fantasizing, and eventually falling in teenage love. I remember wanting a family, a devoted husband, and a nice quiet home life that I could dedicate all my love and energy to. Yes, 15 years ago, The Grand Prize was all about public service, being a servant to my man and household. Then I aged, I experienced life and the world, I gained more exposure to things and people. My wants and desires began to change. What I defined as fun and fulfilling matured, and so did my Grand Prize. Yet he still remained elusive.
Today, The Grand Prize is in a league of his own, because like so many of you, I have been putting in the work and accolades for The Grand Prize and myself. I’ve been keeping a house together, a successful career, and refining my personal style and taste. I’ve been taking myself to cultural affairs, planning wonderful vacations, and attending chic gatherings. I’ve even been taking myself to some of the most fabulous restaurants and openings, as well as experiencing fine dining in romantic and opulent settings all on my own. And the plus ones these days, oh its girlfriends and close guy friends, but The Grand Prize has been duly absent. I’ve developed quite an independent exterior. You know I oftentimes tell you, I am just prepping and refining myself for HIM to walk IN.
But Single Divas am I over prepared? Have I become too self sufficient and set in my ways that The Grand Prize might label me “complicated”, “too stubborn”, or “high maintenance”?
nicely wrapped in gold trimmings and finishings
Has what I’ve done for US, really just been what I’ve done for ME? Have I set the bar so high over the last 15 years that there really is a mountain too high for The Grand Prize to reach? Were we suppose to do it all together and instead I did it alone?
Is The Grand Prize in sheep’s clothing and I’m waiting for him to arrive in a custom fit Dior suit? Is he in a Volvo and I’m looking in the windows of a tinted Mercedes SUV?
And then one by one, I’m starting to hear girlfriends talk about how they’re engaged or recently married. The guy they introduce me to isn’t exactly what they’ve always told me they wanted, but they aren’t single anymore, and they can finally start thinking about planning a family. They have someone to bring to show and tell, dinners, gala openings, and other social events. They got a ring on it! But is HE The Grand Prize, or The Grand Substitute, or Darlings, is HE just Reality and I’ve been too complicated, stubborn, and high maintenance to recognize it?
Let me know your thoughts on this.
Xoxo
Dashon.Don.Diva
Tags: DashonDonDiva, dating, love, relationships, The Grand Prize
November 9, 2009 at 1:00 am |
Wow! I don’t even know where to start. Being single is truly a test of strength and self love. There are so many opportunities to settle, to fall into depression because of the lonliness, and to just loose hope. We’ve become successful and independant because it was IN US already, and I am very proud of that. I don’t think it’s a henderence because if our partner wasn’t on the same level 10 years ago…it wouldn’t have worked out in the long run anyway….and we’d be divorced by 35 and single again. And I think it’s ok to have criteria…but just for the record…a VOLVO is just fine…lol
November 14, 2009 at 7:57 pm |
You absolutely know what my thoughts are on this topic. I will agree with anjelious… We haven’t done anything that wasn’t already in us. And yes there are some many instances where we fall off course or at least we are tempted to. What’ s important is that we not get distracted and we press on. Because at the end of the day: We are worthy of a healthy, happy, fulfilling and successful relationship. God sees to abundance for all his children! What we also have to keep in mind is if we are in the place where we can receive the grand prize? A lot of times we know what we want and how to go after it but we don’t think about our current state. People have to focus on getting ready in all aspects to receive the grand prize hence the term grand prize. So until it arrives… Keep pushing, Keep perfecting, Keep preparing and trust and believe… It will show up at the appropriate time! Never any sooner! Everyone ain’t meant to have the same story!
November 14, 2009 at 8:00 pm |
BRAVO BITCHES, BRAVO. Luvs these comments.
xoxo
Dashon.Don.Diva
November 17, 2009 at 5:52 pm |
All is true. You can never fully love someone until you love and are happy with yourself. I think what you are doing is what everyone needs to do. You are getting to experience alot whereas (you know where i am and my situation) I dont. So i think its wonderful how you are able to get out and try new things and meet new people so when that person does come around, you know what you want and dont want etc. Gotta be happy and content with yourself.