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Deev,
Are you giving your man the best you got? How about your job? How about yourself?
Are you giving everyone and everything else so much of YOU that there’s NO TIME OR ENERGY left for DEEV? Why do you feel it’s acceptable to put your needs at the bottom of the priority list? Here’s your inspector gadget clue: IT’S NOT ACCEPTABLE!
Even if he’s unfaithful or abusive, some DEEVS will continue to put his needs first. Some will actually defend his actions to others, and I know intuition is sending some type of smoke signals to your brain that say HELL NO and Enough!
At work, your boss may not appreciate all the extra effort you put forth, credits others for your ideas , and continuously overlooks you for opportunities to showcase your talents; yet you continue to grind above and beyond expectations.
Honey who’s making these grandiose gestures for you? When did Deev become the lowest priority?
If you are his last priority, or the last straw man on the totem pole on your team (I get it, shit happens that you can’t always control), YOU SHOULD STILL BE THE HIGHEST AND MOST IMPORTANT PRIORITY TO YOURSELF!
Are you trying to prove you are worthy of his love? Are you trying to prove you are intelligent enough to be in your position or a better one? Are you trying to prove these things to them and those, or in the end, is this really what you are trying to prove to yourself?
During childhood you learned about the little engine that could… I think I can, I think I can. Honey full-grown, your internal engine’s mantra should be reciting: I KNOW I CAN, I KNOW I CAN!
How long can you continue putting out more than what is coming in? It’s not a sustainable business model, so why do you keep trying to make this a sustainable personal worth model?
When everyone else values you the least, that’s WHEN you MUST value yourself the MOST!
Make 2010 the year of you!
xoxo,
DashonDonDiva
DEEV,
ARE YOU DREADING THAT MONDAY MORNING RING-THE-ALARM? Do you feel like you are surrounded by a bunch of arrogant, incompetent Tweedles at work? Do you meticulously listen to them and wonder who put this buffoon in charge?
Well honey if it can be done better… WHY DONT YOU grab a fresh pair of NIKES and JUST DO IT! Sometimes you gotta leave the Louboutin’s at home and get grimey!
Too many of you Deevs are unhappy in the direction that your career and jobs are headed, yet you lack the confidence to make any real changes. You have to CONFIDENTLY STEP UP TO THE PLATE AND SHOW OTHERS WHAT YOU ARE WORKING WITH. And if you can’t, DON’T HATE ON THE ONES THAT DO…
The key difference between you and the Tweedles is that the Tweedles, with all the misguided direction in the world, will RAISE UP AND TAKE CHARGE. A M.V.Tweed could be leading the team right into the depths of quicksand and will buoyantly provide upper management with 20 reasons on how your demise into the soil is an Oscar-worthy remake of DISAPPEARING ACTS. Sale, Sale, SPIN! Have you ever heard BS Spun so poetically?
BOTTOM LINE: Confidence will out-trump a defeatist attitude ANYTIME! Some of you Deevs have already lost before you stepped into the boardroom because you have so much self-doubt. You gotta pull a Mariah Carey and Shake It Off. Now is it truly a lack of confidence or a lack of interest in what you are doing that has filled your head with so much self-reservation, or have other people always put you down and you’ve internalized that into your psyche? Either way, when you step into the boardroom, no one else see’s your “GHOST” but you. SHAKE IT OFF DEEV!
Ray J said it best on For the Love of Ray J (side note: I just keep thinking about his Oscar-winning performance in that Kim K. flick, I know, I digress), but Ray told one of his contestants, “if you don’t believe in US, then I can’t believe in YOU!”
Now let’s apply that to your professional life. If you don’t believe you can achieve, why should someone else be on your team? If you have the goods, tenacity, intelligence, and determination THEN PLEASE DELIVER!
So at the end of the day, who’s worse: The Tweedle with the misguided strategic direction and poor leadership skills, or the talented, meek employee that lacks the confidence to truly sell it?
Well you know which one gets paid more!
DEEVS, stand proud and with authority today! Take charge!
xoxo,
DashonDonDiva
DEEVS,
Come on now. I know your MAMA and Iyanla Vanzant taught you about The Meantime, but I’m here to teach you about the game of FOOTBALL. You wanna move yardage like T.O. (on a good day) or kick it from the line of scrimmage like Payton Manning? The key to their success is that these players PLAY THEIR POSITION.
Deevs, some of you got illusions of grandeur when it comes to the ROLE YOU PLAYING IN THIS MAN’S LIFE! I had to refer to him as THIS MAN, because he may not be yours, and somewhere in your rule book, YOU KNOW THIS AINT REALLY YO MAN.
First, are you on the OFFENSE or the DEFENSE? Sweetie, are YOU CHASING (OFFENSE) this man OR is this man CHASING YOU (DEFENSE)?
A lot of you chasing! Sometimes he even lives with you and you still chasing his ass. So let’s break down the OFFENSE, shall we.
POSITION 1: FULL BACK
HONEY YOU WAY IN THE BACK OF THE LINE OF PRIORITIES. You mine as well be a bench warmer like Matt Leinart (Arizona Cardinals). Do you know who he is? Me either chile, and guess what, THIS MANS friends and family don’t know who you are either! Honey you get picked up when the MVPs are M.I.A. Please don’t overhype your bench warmer position. Dimly lit, on the other side of town restaurants and cheap Chinese delivery is not romantic; it’s to keep THIS THANG ON THE LOW. If you talk about him to your friends, yet his friends are unaware of your existence, you are a FULL BACK.
Coach’s Advice: DEEV you better get to the chiropractor’s office quickly to get your back readjusted.
POSITION 2: HALF BACK
If you the HALF BACK, you should consider throwing in the towel or call Obama to see if your love-making skills can qualify for some government-funded training program. Are you unsure if you fall in this category? Well if THIS MAN ever freely places or receives calls from SOMEONE ELSE to make or confirm their plans while he’s still with you, AND HE GIVES YOU THAT 2-SECOND, PRE-CALL SIGNAL, you know that YOU NEED TO BE QUIET WHILE IM ON THE PHONE look, YOU A HALF BACK BOO.
Coach’s Advice: On the bright side, this is the highest form of chicken head status. Go Team!
POSITION 3: WIDE RECEIVER
Honey if you the WIDE RECEIVER, he calls you to do ménage a trios, group sessions, hit his boys off, etc… Yes honey, while you may be giving, receiving, and taking all kinda loads, ain’t none of them loads of love.
Coach’s Advice: Please don’t overestimate your position or importance. Likewise, THIS MAN doesn’t want you to underestimate the value you bring to his sex game. It’s just not the love game.
POSITION 4: TACKLE
DEEV, DEEV, DEEV… Now a slap on the ass is one thing. A slap on the face, OH HONEY, you got serious love problems. If he is whipping yo ass like a Jiu Jitsu player, not only are you in the wrong sport, you in the worse kinda love.
Coach’s Advice: EXIT IMMEDIATELY. And try to pull a Tina Turner or Ms. Sophie one good time to teach him a lesson!
POSITION 5: GUARD
Honey why you holding on so tightly? HE DON’T WANT YOU! BOO! That’s why he’s not reciprocating and he makes it very clear to others that he’s not taken, even when he’s with you.
Coach’s Advice: Wake up DEEV!
POSITION 6: TIGHT END
Shortie is a 10. Nails done, hair done, body is perfect, very lady like, good arm candy. A Deev in this position represents a picture perfect vision of what THIS MAN wants, and if you are intelligent and let him take the lead - Chile, this could turn into some Melania Trump status.
Coach’s Advice: This chick is a MVP Contender, Playa Cardz Right, but be careful because if you the best he has ever had, THIS MAN might stalk yo ass. So put it on him wisely and thoughtfully.
POSITION 7: QUARTERBACK
The QUARTERBACK IS DEFINITELY THE MAIN CHICK! EVERYONE KNOWS THIS CHICK. She gets gifts, respect, he holds her hand, and she knows his friends, family, and colleagues. SHE GETS INTRODUCED! And if his money is long, she’s running the ball and scoring all up and down the defensive end zone.
Coach’s Advice: Watch out for the TIGHT END (SELF EXPLANATORY)
DEEVS, I have to teach you about DEFENSE another day.
xoxo,
DashonDonDiva
Deevs,
I didn’t know so many of you PROFESSIONAL DEEVS were really blue collar. You’re taking on all these fixer-upper projects around the house when it comes to relationships. All of the sudden, THE LADIES ROOM has turned into THE SITUATION ROOM headlining a Ty Pennington Extreme Home Makeover episode.
Honey, knowing how to drain the pipes doesn’t make you a HandyDeev. Too many of you are starting out 2010 with faulty installation. Your HOUSE OF LOVE needs a new foundation because contrary to popular belief, Cover Girl concealer doesn’t hide everything!
Deevs, if you know a dead end road leads to nowhere, why do you keep driving down THAT street? When you’re in an automatic, what keeps you from hitting the brakes and putting the car in reverse?
If you’ve already seen the warning signs, is it really necessary to stay on the path? Some of your RELATIONSHIPS are much like the route to that dead end road. You see all the detours, exit signs, and caution lights but you just can’t stop going forward.
Why do you think you need to fix it? Why do you think you can’t own a top of the line, ready to move in home? Or better yet, why don’t you think you deserve a man that will treat you right?
REVERSE. PACK. MOVE ON!
Xoxo
DashonDonDiva
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